Bondage for Beginners

Bondage for Beginners

 

Are you a little bored with your normal dreary bedroom loving? Are you ready to try something new or take your love life to the next level?

Bondage is an adventurous and sexy approach to spicing up your sex life.  I’m not talking about extreme restraints and pain. I am simply talking about kinky play bondage 😉

bondage for beginners
Silk Wrist Cuffs are perfect for anyone taking their first steps into bondage play.

Bondage Beginner Basics

Bondage comes in many forms although our focus is the exciting kind – ‘Sexual Bondage‘. This is where a partner is consensually tied up or restrained for sexual stimulation and satisfaction.

Bondage is a more docile form of a fetish as opposed to the hard core BDSM fetish – which is the practice of restraining, dominating and humiliating your partner.

The similar extreme S&M fetish is where you inflict pain on your partner in order to achieve sexual stimulation.

So back to bondage, a slight role of a dominant and submissive are taken as control is given to the active partner by restraining the other (submissive) partner.

The feeling of submission is a sexual pleasure enjoyed by many women, and even men like to have their girl take control sometimes. Whatever tickles your fancy I say 😉

Its interesting to know that enthusiasts generally prefer the thought or presence of a fully clothed restrained partner to a fully nude and unrestrained partner.

Bondage usually entails either ropes (Asian forms are best), bandages, cuffs, restraint tape, chains etc.

As a beginner, starting off with soft bondage is best. This means using softer, easy-release and painless restraints as well as making use of basic positions.

Keep reading to find out how to achieve some of these positions. When you become more advanced in tying a person up (yes it can get quite hectic) then you can go onto more complex positions.

 

bondage for beginners

THE MOST IMPORTANT PART!

Before you and your partner begin bondage play, communication is a big must. You need to discuss with your partner your ideas/limits/likes.

If something is off limits to you or your partner, you must communicate this so no mistakes are made and the need to try bondage goes out the window.

Talk about what you both would like to try etc. If this is your first time, go slow and check in with your partner often.

HAVE A SAFE WORD, ACTION OR CARDS. 

Use stop light colours, they are popular colours so they register with the brain easier during play. 

If you have your partner gagged and they cannot speak have them make a movement that is your stop motion. 

Your goal is to have fun and enjoy the experience, so empathy, concern and communication is important to fully enjoy your time and want to do it again.

BEGINNER’S EQUIPMENT

The best rope for bondage is thick cotton or silk. Neither material slides or moves around to much once it has been tied. The best part for your partner is that the knots can be easily undone when pulled on

so they can have piece of mind in case they feel trapped. It will not come undone during play unless directly undone. Rope is multi-purpose so you can use it infinite ways to restrain your partner into different positions.

2 or more ropes may be necessary to achieve particular positions.

Some other products that you can use include scarves and hand/ankle cuffs.

bondage for beginners
Japanese Silk Rope comes in 10.5 metre packs at AO Adult Store
Bondage for Beginners
This is the Deluxe Wrist Tie from the Fifty Shades of Grey Collection. Its silkiness adds sensual excitement while being very strong and great for lengthy sessions.
Bondage for Beginners
A range of handcuffs colours and prints available from AO Adult Store Toowoomba.

Some Other Bondage Items 

If you did want to advance to Full Bondage Products including gags and blindfolds, AO has some great products for you to choose from.

bondage for beginners
Start small and work your way up – this is perfect if you want to get into gagging your partner or being gagged.

 

 Safety Tips

– Keep rope loose enough that you can work two fingers between the rope and your partners skin

– Never tie a rope that restricts someone’s breathing

– Never leave someone tied up alone

– Keep scissors handy in case your partner needs to be released quickly

Try out these positions to tie up your partner

Frog Tie

The frog tie is a leg tie – have your partner bend their right leg so that their ankle is touching the hamstring of the same leg.

Over Arm Tie

The over arm tie is where you tie your partner’s wrists behind their head. Extend their arms over the shoulders and bend

the arms to rest behind their head.

Spread Eagle

Spread eagle is exactly how is sounds. You can either tie your partner up facing down or up. Tie each ankle to each end of the bed post

and each wrist to each end of the opposite bed post. You could also use a spreader bar if you choose to switch positions.

At AO we also have a range of educational DVD’s for you to choose from to help with the visual side of bondage.

 

So sit back relax and enjoy your bondage

AO Mistress XX

Bondage for Beginners

 

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